Your Horse’s Behaviour Isn’t the Problem – 3 Shifts That Start With You

Have you ever said to yourself:

“Why is my horse acting like this?”
“Why is he so tense today?”
“Nothing’s changed, but something’s off…”

What if I told you...
The horse isn’t the problem.
You are the mirror.

And I say that with love. Because I’ve been there.

Over the years — treating horses, coaching riders, and travelling the world — I’ve come to see that most behavioural issues don’t start with the horse.
They start with us.

Our bodies.
Our energy.
Our nervous system.

Here are the 3 shifts I work through with every rider to transform their relationship with their horse — from the inside out.

1. Nutrition: Fuel the Rider, Not Just the Horse

Are you skipping meals?
Living on coffee and adrenaline?
Feeling depleted before you even hit the yard?

If your blood sugar is crashing and your hormones are out of sync, your body is in survival mode — and your horse feels that.

✨ A nourished rider becomes a regulated rider.
And a regulated rider is one your horse can finally trust.

2. Movement: Your Body Speaks Before You Do

Stiff hips. One shoulder tighter than the other. Weak core. Collapsing to one side in the saddle…

Sound familiar?

Your horse feels everything you bring into the ride.
Tension. Asymmetry. Bracing. Even how you breathe.

Instead of fighting your body, train it. Build strength, awareness, and coordination that reflects the rider you want to be.

3. Brain Gym: Your Nervous System Is Your Most Powerful Aid

Most riders focus on aids. Legs. Hands. Seat.

But the most powerful aid?
Is your state.

A calm, regulated, focused rider changes everything.
Before you ride, take 30 seconds. Close your eyes. Breathe. Notice your heartbeat.

✨ Connection starts before you even mount up.

Ready to Make These Shifts?

I’ve put together a free guide called the Rider Blueprint — it's packed with simple actions and insights to help you show up stronger, clearer, and more connected.

Drop a comment below with the word BLUEPRINT or DM me on Instagram and I’ll send it to you.

When you change, everything changes.
Especially your horse.